Book Review: "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life"

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Last month when I visited crossword in Pune, I find this book. From title itself it looks strange to me and may be to many of you. When I read its short summery, I found it interesting. Therefore, I bought it and It is worth buying, for me at least. I consider it to be one of the best motivational book I have ever read. However, I can't compare it with the books from Robin Sharma. In starting, one might get bored with more use of " f " word but after first chapter, it is interesting. The real life examples and wisdom from other books and authors make it easy to understand. It is more of a casual writing than a typical motivational writing but still there are many hidden messages in the book.

Wisdom:

• The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And paradoxically the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience.
• Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.
• To not give a fuck about adversity you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.
• Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give fuck about.
• Life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer because of their riches. The poor suffer because of their poverty. People without family suffer because they have no family. People with family suffer because of their family. People who pursue worldly pleasures suffer because of their worldly pleasures. People who abstain from worldly pleasures suffer because of their abstention.
• We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is nature's preferred agent for inspiring change.
• Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one.
• Don't hope for a life without problems. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.
• Happiness comes from solving problems.
• Problems never stop; they merely get exchanged and/or upgraded.
• Happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems.
• The deeper the pain, the more helpless we feel against our problems, and the more entitlement we adopt to compensate for those problems.
• There is no such thing as a personal problem. If you have got a problem, chances are millions of other people have had it in the past, have it now, and are going to have it in the future.
• Self-awareness is like an onion. There are multiple layers to it, and the more you peel them back, the more likely you are going to start crying at inappropriate times.
• Pleasure is not the cause of happiness; rather, it is the effect. If you get the other stuff right, then pleasure will naturally occur as a by-product.
• Sometimes life sucks, and the healthiest thing you can do is admit it.
• Often the only difference between a problem being painful of being powerful is a sense that we choose it, and that we are responsible for it.
• I'm always wrong about everything, over and over and over again, and that's why my life improves.
• The more you try to be certain about something, the more uncertain and insecure you will feel.
• The more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don't know.
• The more something threaten your identity, the more you will avoid it.
• It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
• If it feels like it's you versus the world, chances are it's really just you versus yourself.
• Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you've failed at something.
• Don't just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.
• The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.
• We're all going to die, all of us. What a circus! That alone should make us love each other, but it doesn't. We are terrorized and flattened by life's trivialities; we are eaten up by nothing.